What I have learned about surrender and achievement in motherhood
Updated: Aug 6, 2020
Wanna hear the complexity of being a coach and a Christian? I believe
you can create a life and career on your terms – you can own your life,
your time, your joy – but God is at the centre of all of it.
If you try and control too much of it, you’ll lose it all. And yet, if we don’t
take initiative and ownership of our time, energy, relationships, career, finances – we are just existing. Not producing, not co-creating, not living
the brilliant life that God has called us to.
He who tries to save his life, loses it...
This truth – and complexity has never been more clear then when I
became a mama for the first time. I had a relatively successful career,
business and life – I thought I could handle stuff. And frankly, being a bit
of a control freak kinda worked for me.
My brand was even called ‘life on her terms’ because I so passionately believed – and still do -that you can create a life on your terms with one decision.
Then I met Michael. My baby. Who was precious – and also cheeky,
tenacious and ever so demanding. And he didn’t want to sleep.
Especially when I had coaching calls and business to do. It was like it
was ‘life on michael’s terms’ – and I felt totally out of control and at times
defeated. I went to God plenty of times crying.. ‘how can I achieve my
purpose with this baby??’ ‘why didn’t you give me a sleeping, placid
Talk about eating humble pie.
The ‘control’ that had worked for me so well in previous years, was not
going to work this time. I wasn’t in the drivers seat. I had to go with the
flow, let go – and let God show me what this season was about.
It was about letting go, and showing up where I was needed.
It was about trusting God with the big stuff, while I did the ‘small stuff’ in
It was about letting go of my ego that wanted to produce, to achieve, to
show I was ‘still goal slaying’ even with a baby in tow.
It was about surrendering this time and season to God so He could use
it - and give me the space I needed to be a mother and learn the
lessons I needed to – and still am learning.
Do I still have control issues? Yep. Its something I check in with God
regularly about – but I know that as long as I am letting God in the
drivers seat, I can breathe and sit on the passengers side for a while.
If there’s an area you are struggling to take control in – just consider this
– are you trying to take control from God?
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